1) What is the Middle Ground? 2) When I hear the term “Middle Ground” I automatically think of compromise. Is that what the Middle Ground is about? 3) Does every relationship have a Middle Ground? 4) Is the concept more useful to men? To Women? 5) Why the “Middle” Ground? What is it in the middle of? 6) What are the qualities that lead people to take advantage of Middle Ground strategies? 7) Who influenced you to develop the idea of the Middle Ground? 8) What is the relationship between the Middle Ground and the love that can develop within it? 9) How is the approach differ from others? 10) If you had to break the Middle Ground approach into four or five key ideas what would they be? 11) The merits of your own approach aside, many people report dissatisfaction with couples therapy in general. How do you respond to a general skepticism about couples therapy and can you explain how you would defend the Middle Ground approach against the charge that couples therapy itself is ineffective?
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Marty Babits, Co-Director of FACTS (Family and Couples Treatment Service), a division of the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy in NYC, is a Board Certified Diplomate in advanced clinical social work. Over the past twenty-five years, he has worked with hundreds of families and couples and written numerous articles on the therapeutic process. Certified as a reading specialist earlier in his career, the author became intrigued with understanding the family interactions that best helped his dyslexic students - children and adults - to learn to read and to improve their self-esteem. As a result of this interest in family work Mr. Babits obtained licensure in social work and earned certification in psychodynamic psychotherapy from Hunter College. Mr. Babits was then certified as a clinician in the practice of family and couples therapy at the Institute for Contemporary Therapy where he currently serves as a member of the executive training committee. He is in private practice in New York City.
The Power of the Middle Ground is an easy to read self–help book with many clinical vignettes and couple-strengthening exercises. Too often self-help books are terrific at describing a problem, only to give scant suggestions for improving the situations. Mr. Babits has accomplished the art of describing what needs to be achieved and how to achieve it at the same time. His concept of the “Middle Ground” is imbued with hope and is utilitarian at the same time. His effort with couples is to focus upon their strengths and upon what they agree, to forge a concept of togetherness while working on the difficult issues which face couples. With creativity and grace, his communication exercises give explicit instructions to couples who nave never really listened to each other or are too angry and defensive to try. I would recommend the book quite highly, especially to couples who are at the end of their patience with the relationship .I would also recommend the book to any clinician who works with couples to help them to develop a more positive stance in their treatment. Reviewed by Paula F Eagle, MD; Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons; Faculty, Columbia Psychoanalytic Center for Training and Research; Private Practice, New York City
Tagline: A couple’s guide to renewing your relationship 10 Word Copy: The book provides compassionate and pragmatic help for couples in need of guidance. 25 Word Copy: The book provides compassionate and pragmatic help for couples in need of guidance. Marty shows couples how to realize their potential for intimacy and understanding. 50 Word Copy: The book provides compassionate and pragmatic help for couples in need of guidance. Marty shows couples how to realize their potential for intimacy and understanding. Using exercises, tips, suggestions, and uplifting accounts of couples who benefit from his approach—he scores big on generating hope and resolving conflicts. 100 Word Copy: The book provides compassionate and pragmatic help for couples in need of guidance. Marty shows couples how to realize their potential for intimacy and understanding. The Middle Ground he speaks of is not a place for compromise; it is a blame-free zone where couples learn to create emotional safety and rebuild damaged trust. Vivid guidelines, exercises, tips and vignettes bring the Middle Ground concepts alive. Using what is possible as its longitude and what is positive for its latitude, a course beyond conflict and on to forgiveness and reconnection is charted. Readers welcome aboard.